Clearly we have all had those terrible heartbreaks that you always look back to as “the one that mind fucked you” and you begin to rebel and do things that you always told yourself that you would never do and are doing it.
There are a couple of reminders that you should NEVER do after breakup.
1. DON’T BLAME YOUR FRIENDS FOR YOUR MID-LIFE CRISIS
You feel like the victim at the moment because, of all the negativity coming towards you left and right. And you feel like the people around you are causing the problems when in reality it can be them or it can be your own actions. At the moment you may seem like your entire world is ending over a stupid situation that made your life completely upside down but you should always remember that your circle isn’t the one giving you problems. Your circle is trying for you to see the light (in other words) make you wake up and do something for yourself and learn from the mistakes that have happened in your past.
2. WALLOWING IS GOOD BUT TO AN EXTENT.
Wallowing means indulging which in the Woman’s dictionary of break-ups, wallowing is indulging in a unlimited amount of junk food, laying all day in bed without looking at yourself in the mirror and watching 80’s & 90’s chick-flicks. The thing that sucks about wallowing is that you love it so much and you get hooked on it that you do it everywhere. You can bring it to your work place or if your in school it can go there and it will give other people that vibe that they can’t be comfortable around you because, of the situation that you are currently in. You can’t show your emotions and your problems everywhere, what you should do is think positive and yes it is change in your life but maybe it is the best thing that can happen to you. You take it as a lesson and you grow from it. Do things for yourself that will benefit you in the long run. Im not saying that it’s easy but it is the first step.
3. DON’T DO THINGS THAT YOU WILL REGRET IN THE LONG RUN
We all do the most incredibly idiotic things during a break up that we think it will move up the process of getting over you ex-significant other when in reality it can be hurting yourself more and causing more problems that you do not need in your life at all. We sometimes have that “fuck it” menatlity thinking that whatever you do at this point will not bring consequences when in the end they bring the absolute worse outcomes. The best thing to do is to focus on those dreams and goals that you desire. It’s the perfect time to remain productive and distracted which the outcome from this gives you an inch closer to what you want to do in your life and it can be the best feeling ever and it also helps a bit in the “moving-on” process.
4. YOUR FRIENDS ARE HELPING YOU NOT TRYING TO BRING YOU DOWN.
In situations like these you feel like you are being attacked everytime you turn and sometimes you may feel that your friends are not agreeing with the choices that you make when it comes to breaking up with someone that you loved deeply. You automatically think that your girls should be on your side which they are! But all they want is what is best for you and sometimes the things that you do, can make you look 10x worse and at the end of the day your girls are just trying to look out for you and are trying to make the best out of the situation that you are going through. You may think that they are against you which can be normally on these delicate type of situations but it is better to have a gorup of friends that are extremely honest with you rather than having a group of friends that want to lie to your face and make you look stupid.
5. DO NOT PUT YOUR PERSONAL PROBLEMS ON SOCIAL MEDIA.
This has to be the most important thing that you should NOT do! No one should know your personal business especially something like this, it’s exactly what people want and will talk about and can result to rumors to more problems on your plate. Your probelms between you and your ex should stay just between the both you, obviously if you need help and adivce you should go talk to your girls but other than that you leave it off the social media. Don’t post anything on twitter, instagram, snapchat, etc. It isn’t worth it and I know we all have those moments that we just descide to be petty and give in to the stupidity. Don’t do it think before you post people because, it can backlash at you. Those “fuck it” moments can really fuck up/worsen the situation even more.
At the end of the day we all sadly go through one of those heart-wrenching break-ups that we just can get over in time. We try to find something to distract us in thinking that it can help speed up the process sometimes which in reality can cause even more damage. You have to think before you say, do, or type. The best advice I can give to any girl that goes through is this, to focus on yourself, better yourself, and to take it day by day.